Wow a whole month of not updating..jezz sorry..almost that is, anyhow, usually i never miss writing about Valentines day but this year i am a bit late huh? well it was a different story i guess.
Many of you would remember an old movie, "For Love or Money" by Micheal J Fox and Gabriell Anwar, it was about a guy who worked as a hotel manager trying to find his dream and a girl who was aGF of a rich tycoon. The story mapped out the question of love and money. This i guess is a topic most discussed in this day and age, with a daughter and a son growing up, one ponders of the values that we put in today's life, In relationships of the new age, how would someone from an old school of thought cope?
Back in the days, girls with BF would kindly decline invitations or chats or calls from other man, they will politely say that they already have a boyfriend and guys would back away. In those days, poems, flowers and caring was the way to a woman's heart but in this days of bag's gifts and all that, its harder. Point in fact is that recently through the BB, one of the contacts had a very interesting status , it said " If you dont make 40k a month then dont bother trying" this of course was an old friend which i havent spoken to in a long time, so i decided to BB her and ask her what she meant.
From her own words- She wanted to find a rich BF, someone that can take of her and i understood this, in tis day and age, some woman are born for career and some are born to be household while some dont know which to go on. The weird part of the BB was when i asked, does only money count and her reply was " no, the man must also be nice and able to care for her so that she wont ask other man for money" NOW this struck me odd, usually, the woman would not want to lose the love and attention of the man, so a man worries that she might find love from another man but nope, for her its all about the dollar and cents i guess. Another story i heard thru the radio today as we were going down to Ipoh for a meeting, the caller called to discuss about her recent breakup, she said that while she was with her BF, his phone was silent and one day she decided to sneak peak and found that her BF was sms other woman. OH O... on confronting him, he decided to also peak at her phone and she was ALSO doing the SAME thing. Needless to say, the caller told that they had broke up and the radio DJ played with her that she too was doing the same thing. Prior to the Ipoh trip, a long overdue all boys night session, gave me yet another tale, This was my friends tale...
He was interested in this girl and after courting her, he managed to be alone with her but she told him that she did not and has never been touched, they spoke till the wee hours and later he confirmed that even the girl grew up in the heart of KL, she was pure, clean and untouched, yes she goes out and all that but so taken was he by her that we stayed up and talked about them, i pray that if he is reading this, "Bro, just tell her and go with your plan, there is no shame that your just a middle income as she choose you because of you..of love, she needs your love and money is only but a secondary thing. Count your lucky stars bro"
In a day of this age, of scandals, FFB, one nighter and all that, who does a man or a woman stay focused on one? with the many temptations that are before us, who does one cope? if trust was a factor before, in this day and age, trust is a hard earned commodity, Ask ourselves, do we want ppl to call or bb or text our love ones at odd times of the day or night? do we want our love ones to chill in houses or places with others from a different sex? How do we earn the trust? in this modern world, are there still values of the old? of when men are gentlemen and woman are ladies? Are we too corrupted by the western culture? A long hot debate i would assume, for yours truly, i guess starting with "Treating others like how you want to be treated" is my frist step, i do admit, base on past experiences it is hard for me to truly trust someone. But the question is not on me but rather on society itself, how do propagate trust? For women, your man's all boys night out drinking session or all boys trip to Danok will aspire trust? For men, your woman in some strange place with some guys you hardly know for hours at night? God knows what devilish thoughts run thru your heads. but we are told to trust, we are told that "no i am not that kind of person and i know how to take care of myself" but look at it from others eyes.. would you want your love one to be with other women or man? not in a public place but a private place? it is all being logical and practical i guess. For we are full of flaws and yet why do we want to create more? To my brother if your reading this, if you and her want to commit then do so fully and willingly, you cannot have everything, sacrifices have to be made, if you can lepak with us as often or as late, we as true friends will understand, afterall its for you own good. Know your limits and do not tempt temptation for being untrue to the other party will only bring forth god's wrath, You have a GF so act like having one, dont go on drinking or partying binge although she said that she understand it, for you must think, if you gonna hit that road that you said your gonna hit, then she would want you to change, to be responsible to her, to show and prove to her that you are worthy of her trust and that she is important to you. short calls, sweet sms are the smallest gesture of love, show her that you are able to take a few seconds of your busy day or night, just to call hear her voice for 5 seconds or 1 minute is always better that not hearing at all. remember, getting the love is easy but keeping it alive is the hard part. but then again i am a hopeless romantic bro so take my advice with a pinch of salt. Also goes out to the rest of us, i guess, do as we preach then we wont go wrong, if she says she dont like something then do stop and show her that what she say's , her likes and dislikes mean so much to you and i betcha she will value you and wont want to lose you. prevention is always better than cure.
On other matters, i had a balst of pre-valentine, i would upload pictures but somehow it didnt get photostreamed to my PC (STEVE JOBS....w r u)but back to the island of legends, and for me being on the island since i was 18, i was sure that the island will bless the union and it will serve as a start to a legend. We did many things that i had but only talked or dream about, of things that was on my to do list and i was blessed to have it to share it with her, i dived (fun dive) to 17 meters and saw the beauty of the ocean, was truly amazing and with her, made it even more special. Another tale (Wahh tale talk tonight) was that, in truth, i have always been scared of the ocean, i almost lost my life to it twice, once when i was 12 and the other time at 16, but i made my peace with the ocean i guess as she let me dived so deep..(or it may be a lure so she will gobble me when i dive deeper? hahahahah) anyhows, it was a thrilling trip and no better place than my own island to have it..with that special someone.. still.. Not being naive, the road is still long but i have faith and we have faith and as long as we know and value each other, "If we can try to everyday to make it better, as it goes, with any luck, i suppose, the music never ends"
No pictures on this trip (till i get it i guess) take care folks, smile and
PEACE.
